Everyone has a story. Do you ever find yourself wondering about the chronicles of people around you? As busy as we are with our own lives, we enjoy finding the time to go to the movies, turn on the television or sit back with a good book. It’s easy enough to find entertainment in a story that won’t disrupt our own. Taking an active role in the story of stranger – well, that might get complicated.
Oct 12th was National Gumbo
Day. This year, my husband and I celebrated by enjoying a bowl of gumbo
at our local Gumbo Festival. The kids scarfed down cheese-covered fries
and then waited patiently for their dad and I to finish our meals. By
patiently, I mean that they said, “Hurry up and finish eating already!” less
than a thousand times. You see, they didn’t care that it was
National Gumbo Day. They didn’t go to the Gumbo festival for gumbo.
They were there for the rides.
After eating, we split into groups. My
husband and son went off to the “big rides” while I watched our youngest enjoy
the tamer attractions. The Fun House was one of her
favorites. She waded through balls, climbed up, slid down, and then got
back in line to do it over and over again.
That’s what she was doing when I saw him.
Two dirty streaks ran down his cheeks, but
he wasn’t crying. The tears that left the tracks had dried. He mouthed
silent words, talking to no one in particular, except perhaps himself.
His left hand was near his chest, making repeated motions in the air that
didn’t appear to be ASL to my (admittedly untrained) eye. He couldn’t
have been more than five years old. He was alone. My mommy sense
soared to red alert status as I scanned the crowd, searching for someone,
anyone that might be looking for him. Another mom met my eyes. She
had noticed him too. “Is he okay?” she worried. I fought back
the instinct to reach down with a comforting touch to his shoulder, because
something told me that physical contact from a stranger might be overwhelming
for this child. Instead, I lowered myself to his height and asked, “Are
you lost?” He didn’t look at me as he shook his head. I pressed
further. “Who is with you?” His raised his arm and pointed to the
empty space between the The Fun House and the ride next to it. Then,
before I could question him again, he began to walk toward the spot. When
we reached the in-between point, he gestured again. Behind The Fun House
was an RV. It was inside the fence bordering the fairgrounds, not in the
parking lot. I wondered if his family traveled with the carnival attractions.
Perhaps the rides were as familiar to him as the swing set in my yard is to my
own children. Still, he just seemed much too young to be walking around
in a crowd of strangers by himself.
At that moment, a police officer passed near
enough to us that I was able to get his attention and explain the
situation. While he began talking to the little boy, my daughter exited
the ride and ran up to me. She was ready to move on. I watched for
a moment as the police officer walk toward the RV with the little boy then took
my daughter’s hand and went off to a different part of the fair.
I didn’t see that tiny, tear-stained face
again the rest of the evening, but questions hung around my mind.
Why was he alone? Why had he been crying? Did someone hurt him?
Was he hungry? Did his family know that he was walking around on his
own? Were they worried? If he was part of a “carny” family, perhaps
there was an agreement among the attraction operators to keep an eye on
him. I wondered if he had a permanent home, or if he lived “on the
road?” What is life like for a child, any child, who travels from one
carnival spot to another? Maybe it’s a wonderful life, full of adventure
and amazing experiences. Maybe it isn’t. I don’t know because I’m
not a part of his life - not a part of his story.
Should I be?
it too easy for me to walk away?
Monday, December 10, 2012
A few weeks ago, my niece turned five with a colorful art party. There are more than a few us of who believe that her mom should become a professional party planner. Here are a few photos of her creativity!
Those cute "crayons" are candy coated pretzel sticks.